Carol, I guess you will not want to hear this right now but as devastating as that last day must have been for you, there will perhaps be a time in the future when you will be able to look back and thank God that Eric stayed with you at home on the kitchen floor for those few hours. If the day had unfolded slightly differently, if he hadn't just seen the GP that morning, the paramedics might have been obliged to take him to the hospital and your beloved Eric might have been subjected to a post mortem.
Cold comfort right now, I know, but I really believe that there are times when the human spirit can control destiny. Imagine Eric, so poorly, so breathless, but with enough strength to get home from the doctors and then once he was safe with you, allowing himself to let go.
My friend who is the chief exec of a hospice says there are those to hang on and on for a special visitor or an important date / anniversary and then slip away, while there are others who seem not to want to die in front of people and find the strength to wait for the moment when the family slips out for a break. I am so sad for you that Eric has been taken away so suddenly and in such traumatic circumstances but how wonderful to think of him being at home, his heart just knowing that he was safe in your arms and your voice being the last one he heard.
You are in my thoughts xxx
"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard
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Carol
I will be thinking of you today, I am sure Carolann will do her Father, you and herself proud. My Karen was amazing at Mick's funeral.
It will be emotional but the huge sense of relief when the service is over can be quite overwhelming, I am sure all your family and friends will do everything they can to make it a wonderful send off.
Tonight I will have a glass of wine or two and toast to Eric and all our absent loved ones and then another to give fortitude to all those still fighting this horrid disease.
All my love
Mo xxx
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Hi Carol, We hope all goes well for you today at the funeral and after, we shall be with you in thought. I'm sure there will be lots of support. Think of the UP side, and the fun that Eric gave you. He will be going UP anyway..... so good for the rosary beads!! The cards may come in handy later.....
Take care, both you and Carolann, and don't be afraid to ask for help afterwards. Someone will be listening.
Love Shirley xxxxx
Blessings and Hugs
PS. Remember ALL the good times, memories live on. Chris. xxxx
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Carol, that is the most brilliant funeral poem I have ever come across. I have just read it out to John and could hardly keep my voice steady; if only we had come across this before Stan died he would definitely have wanted us to use it as it expresses exactly what he thought. I often asked Stan what he wanted and his standard reply was always "stick me in a bin liner and prop me under a tree".
I am so pleased that Eric's send-off was as he had wanted and planned. I am sure that the strength you have shown this far will get you through the coming days, weeks and months. Sleep peacefully Eric x
"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard
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Dear Carol
I am so so sorry to read your post, Eric fought this bloody disease so hard and your support was immense.
Please except our deepest condolences
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So sorry to hear this. He put up a tremendous fight with you and your daughter's support. Many condolences.
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Hi Carol
So sorry, please accept my condolences. Eric fought so much, as did you for him.
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Oh Carol,
So sorry to read this sad news, you and he fought the mightiest of battles against this insidious disease. Eric will have been so proud of you but now he is at peace. Try and stay strong and remember the good times.
My thoughts and prayers are with you,
Love Barry (alias Barrington ) xxx
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Carol it is such sad news. You stood by his side throughout his illness hoping to help him have as much time as he could. Please except my deepest condolences. RIP Eric, your pain is at least over! Thinking of you tonight!
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Just come on the forum and seen your post, Carol. My love and condolences on your loss, you stood by Eric to the end, you can't ask anymore of yourself and you have taken the time to support and encourage others on the forum. I will be thinking of you. RIP Eric. x
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Thank you all I had posted what happend to Eric this morning. The post is gone.I want to explain what happend As many of you know Eric was in hospital heart and blood clott he came home on Sunday.They told me he was ok changed heart meds.This morning Eric went to GP that was at 9,00am he was home by 9.15 I was up stairs when I heard a thud Eric was on the kitchen floor I tried to bring him round whilst on the phone trying to get help.
The ambulance arrived they worked on him for a long time.The GP came he said Erics breathing was bad and his bp was very low gave him appt for next week WHY
The ambulance left GP left was told to collect death certificate at surgery in an hour.Meanwhile Eric.was still on floor he lay there until 2.00 no one came near Carolann picked an undertaker out of phone book they took his body away at.3,30 would someone please tell me this was wrong no dignity for my husband
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Carol ,
So sorry to hear this news about Eric, but he is now at peace , no pain, remember the good times.
Thinking of you both
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Carol, my heart goes out to you now more than ever, Eric and Mick followed an almost identical path until the end. I know you must be hurting so badly right now so not a lot I can say to make you feel any better. My sincere and deepest condolences to you all.
whatever happened will be so hard for you to understand or come to terms with, however tell me to get lost if this is too much right now but I will send you a private message about something that may happen in the next few days just in case you need to be prepared for it.
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Dear Carol.
Our hearts go out to you at this terrible time. We are so very sorry to hear about Eric.
Words aren't enough to convey our heartfelt sympathy.
I read your first lines at the top of this post earlier, and was struggling to know what to say, and now I've read all the other details, I am shocked to the core.
Yes, this is wrong, very wrong.
My wife and I can't imagine how you must have felt today.
Love and a big big hug from us both,
George and Lynn
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Carol,
My heart goes out to you and Carolann , this is so wrong on so many levels. I could not believe this when I read your story of Eric's passing. I have been worried ever since I read your last posting on Sid's Hug thread.
Your last memories have been sullied by the way Eric was treated and I am so angry but this is not the time or the place for me to express what I really want to say.
Carol please take heart that you did everything possible for Eric and he would have known that, you are an amazing woman and you will get through this.
My love is on the next train up to you and your family. RIP Eric he is know at peace, with no more pain.
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Carol
My deepest sympathy I am new to the forum but have followed your posts and your are obviously a lovely human being. Take care of yourself.
Chris
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My deepest sympathy to you and your family. What a horrible thing to happen. Thinking of you.
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Carol I'm so sorry up hear this sad news. He fought all the way with your support.
I do agree that the way he was left is appalling. But please now take time to look after yourself and give yourself time to grieve
My thoughts are with you and your family
Bri x
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My wife and I are so sorry to hear of your sad loss. I never met Eric, my father's name too, or your good self but please accept our condolences and our deepest sympathy.
Regarding what happened today, a police officer, acting as the the local coroners officer, should have taken care of everything for you regarding the undertaker and having Eric taken away with a little more alacrity and with complete dignity. I'm not sure why this didn't happen but please believe me it is what we are trained for and is an occurrence that is usually handled with compassion and understanding .
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Carol
I feel for you. The way Eric was left sounds horrendous. You have supported and fought for your hubby through his most difficult times, and you should feel proud of that. I wish you all the strength to mourn your hubby and adjust to all the changes in your life.
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Dear wee wifie,what a dreadful thing to happen at such a time,I can't imagine how you coped,but you did, and you will in the days and weeks ahead because that is how you are.much sympathy to you and your daughter. Diesel x
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Carol,
Our deepest heartfelt sympathies to you and the family, what happened to Eric should not have happened, and we are so sorry, for you, that it did.
Please accept our condolences, thoughts and prayers at this VERY sad time.
Chris and Shirley.
PS. I will now be adding Eric to my Absent Friends list so that he WILL not be forgotten. Chris.
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Dear Carol
I am shocked and mortified to read about what has happened today. Yes, I am glad that Eric is no longer in pain but horrified that people could leave you and your lovely man in that state. I have never heard of anything like this before and am truly shocked on your behalf. Carol, at least you know that the people here are genuine in our condolences and sympathy.
RIP Eric.
Love to you and Carolann xxxxxx