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Posted 02 Mar 2015 at 19:40

If anything like this happens it is a good idea to go somewhere crowded where there are lots of people about. A supermarket car park if possible, they have CCTV, usually.  Just go and park up outside the front doors, and sit there with your hand on the horn button.

Glad you got through it okay in the end.

atb

dave

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Posted 26 Mar 2015 at 05:42
Two weeks ago today I was nervously setting out on another new adventure, some time with friends and family in UK including meeting up with people from this forum which was fabulous you know who you are so thank you to each one of you, you really make my life better. This was all ahead of my trip to America to do 4 different states in as many weeks. Some tough jobs to do along the way.

I can truly say that air travel is not really boring you spend ages waiting around airports watching reality show scenes come to life. The hen party on their way to Dublin so drunk that the moving walkway becomes a lifetime challenge, the little toddler who had lost his mother and decided I would be his hero, and the tv screens revealing news of real life issues all around you.

Then once actually airborne the apprehension of what is to come starts to run riot in your imagination.

How will I manage on my own will I make all my connections will I find my luggage ok will I have a problem at customs or immigration will I just turn right around and go home to safety and familiarity?

Then after 2 days of all that will it all be worth it?

Meeting mutual friends and staying in familiar places but all alone and knowing that feels so wrong leads me to ask myself is this the right thing to do right now?

Then really good friends somehow know that all of this craziness is happening, modern communications make it possible for them to reach you and help you to work your way through the virtual panic that has overwhelmed you. Next thing you are moving forward and taking things in your stride as if that was the way it was meant to be.

Another step towards tomorrow and the new me.

Xxx

Mo

User
Posted 26 Mar 2015 at 07:40
Mo,

You never travel alone, we are always with you.

Steve x

User
Posted 26 Mar 2015 at 08:16

Mo I have only recently become acquainted with you online but you appear to be a generous , humorous and brave woman. Life is certainly not how you would have planned if but you are moving forward in a positive way. Good luck to the new you and thanks for all your positive ,reassuring posts. Georgina

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Posted 26 Mar 2015 at 08:29

Hi Mo,

I know how tough these last few weeks have been for you, but you are such a strong person i knew you would come out the other side.

We are all missing you here, have a great holiday but why is it always five weeks, why cant you have two like everyone else http://community.prostatecanceruk.org/editors/tiny_mce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-innocent.gif

Keep up with the training ready for our color run. (not me http://community.prostatecanceruk.org/editors/tiny_mce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-innocent.gif)

Si, Ness and the twins xxxx

Don't deny the diagnosis; try to defy the verdict
User
Posted 26 Mar 2015 at 13:01

Glad to be of assistance SS just don't forget my skirt and coconuts.http://community.prostatecanceruk.org/editors/tiny_mce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-smile.gif X 

BFN

Julie X

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NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON
User
Posted 26 Mar 2015 at 19:38
Hi mo

Have true admiration of how you are off by yourself to America. You may be travelling alone but I am sure your mick will be very near you in spirit.

Have a fabulous time.

Lesley x

User
Posted 26 Mar 2015 at 19:43
Mo

You still have Hawaii to look forward to. I wish I was coming with you my dear friend. Brave and simply fabulous, that's our Mo.

With love

Allison xxx

User
Posted 26 Mar 2015 at 21:11

A lone traveller but never alone - have a wonderful adventure x

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 26 Mar 2015 at 21:58

Enjoy the holiday Mo...you are racking up more air miles than me

Bri x

User
Posted 27 Mar 2015 at 03:38
Thanks y'all
User
Posted 27 Mar 2015 at 08:24

Have an absolutely wonderful time, Mo. I will think of you sunning yourself in Hawaii whilst I am chasing round after my new collie pup !

Fiona. xxx

User
Posted 01 Apr 2015 at 00:57
I have been reluctant to post about my travels and the things I am up to, mainly because there seem to be a few people who really need all the support they can get right now and me being all happy holidays seems a little inappropriate. However I did think a post might offer a bit of cheer along the way.

Initially I felt like a fish out of water, slightly scared of being in places that had been so familiar to Mick and I as a couple. Especially at our friend's house in California. That seemed to be a reasonable fear as it hit me very hard the first 3 nights or so. Then gradually I started to feel more at ease with myself, mostly due to the fantastic reassurance of my special friends on this forum with regular e mails, messages and by just letting me know that everyone is OK.

I had a difficult day a few days ago when tension had built between me and the friends I am with, just stupid things which previously I would have simply dismissed, the more I thought about things the more problematic it became until I just took myself off to a quiet corner and let rip. I had a troubled night worrying about it all. I think my parents should have called me Anxiety istead of Amanda LOL.

The next day it was as if nothing had happened indeed it really had just been me over reacting and beating myself up unnecessarily. Thanks to my forum friends for helping me to realise that.

Since then I have been catching amazing sunsets whilst sat on the balcony with a nice glass of wine, watching turtles as they swim past literally below us and seeing the whales blowing away on the horizon. I sit and listen to the ocean rolling in and it soothes away every bit of tension I feel.

Yesterday we went out whale watching with the Pacific whale foundation charity, what an amazing day.We got up close and quite personal with a huge pod of humpback whales, lots of females with little calves and a lot of big males that are called "escorts" basically they missed out on the mating and are hanging about protecting the females and their babies in the hope that they might become the next Daddy. The "this season" Daddys have all left town heading up for the best food supply thousands of miles North in Alaska. Sounds like a good life, eating, mating, traveling, playing and sleeping when necessary although not necessarily in that order.

I had 2 cameras with me and managed to take any number of pictures of water, the boat, my feet and about 3 featuring sundry whale parts .. I do not possess any photographic skills whatsoever!!

I have been running along the beach front every day trying to get ready for the run with Ness and the girls when I get home. I was doing OK but today I have had to change things round a bit due to chronic pain in my right hip. My PT did tell me road running might make my Rheumatoid arthritis flare up so I guess that is my bad (as they say here) back to walking pretty fast and swimming. I got the shock of my life in the sea this morning when I was joined by the biggest turtle I ever set eyes on, he just nonchalantly paddled past me (much better swimmer than me) ...awesome I doubt that will ever happen again in my lifetime so quite an uplifting and emotional moment.

This evening we are going to eat at the restaurant owned and run by Mick Fleetwood of Fleetwood Mac fame, looking forward to that.

Tomorrow I have a whole new workout, I am going to canoe in a Hawaiin outrigger canoe for about 90 mins around this part of the island coastline, who knows what I will get to see along the way. I just hope my arms are not so sore that I cannot lift my wine glass tomorrow night!!

Thursday is volcano day and then Friday I move on leavng Hawaii behind me and back to the familiarity of family in Georgia.

Sending you all hugs and Aloha greetings

By the way Elvis is alive and here on Maui I must have had half a dozen sightings of him already this week and he still looks like he did when he was 30!!

xx

Mo

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Posted 01 Apr 2015 at 02:23

Good to hear about your adventures, Mo. Particularly as it is 3 am turned here in UK and a bad cold is stopping me sleeping. It feels very quiet in the house so to read about your activity is quite up lifting. I have been on my own for so many years now I take it for granted. Your journey reminds me how difficult it is to adjust to that life when you have had such a sustained and wonderful partnership with the unforgettable Mick. I find travel on my own exciting and anxious at the same time and know that conflict is there for you. Your deep inner strength and determination sees you through it and you will remain a beacon of hope for others in your situation.

Don't overdo the exercise though and create health problems for yourself. Be measured in that as you are on holiday and should be doing holiday things too. Always good for the forum to hear good news stories and you help others so much it's good to hear you helping yourself to new vistas.

User
Posted 01 Apr 2015 at 08:32
Hi Mo,

Sounds like you having a wonderful time. I've seen some of the pictures you're taking and you're doing really well in capturing moments in time that will be remembered the whole of your life.

I think I was having a moment yesterday like you describe having with your friends. I just wanted to scream at someone. I'm not normally like that but I think the frustration with everything that's happened to me in the last nine months finally got to me. A phone call from my mortgage company didn't help. I told them that I was going back to work but it was a bit uncertain how long it would take me to get the amount of work I needed to pay the bills especially as my benefits stop the moment I do my first job. They wanted me to ring them every two weeks to let them know what work I'd done and when I would be paid for it. I have enough stress anyway without having that pressure put on me as well.

Anyway, I feel much better this morning after a good night's sleep.

I'm really looking forward to seeing more great photos from you in the coming days.

Have a wonderful time, Mo and take it easy with the running. You don't want to injure yourself and spoil your trip.

Take care.

Steve x

User
Posted 01 Apr 2015 at 11:54

Hi Mo

You're such a help and encouragement to us all - hoping you have a wonderful time on your travels

Best wishes, Arthur

User
Posted 01 Apr 2015 at 12:10

Sounds like you are having a great time, certainly getting better weather than we are over here.

Enjoy it Mo.

atb

dave

User
Posted 01 Apr 2015 at 17:42

Have a great trip,you cheer many on with your posts.El

User
Posted 01 Apr 2015 at 21:45

This is not what I was going to post, but thinking of you as always SS. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

BFN

Julie XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON
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Posted 01 Apr 2015 at 21:53

Enjoy your well deserved break.

Chris and Shirley.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 
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