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User
Posted 21 Jun 2019 at 21:52
No, I am quite sure he doesn’t need injections yet - we would spend half our life at A&E!!! And anyway, as he pointed out to the doctor, he doesn’t need to be shown how to do it because he had plenty of practice already. It’s procedure to have to see the nurse after you have been referred to the doctor, apparently ... just a way of delaying him, in my opinion.

Doctor gave an example of dosage for comparison. Say Caverject delivers 20mg dose to the cavernosa. Muse is a 1000mg dose but less than 10mg actually reaches the cavernosa .... that might have been just right for the extra boost needed. But no, we will not be getting the chance to try :-/

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 22 Jun 2019 at 07:36
Why don’t you use the Online Clinic that I do and fill out the online consultation where you can explain the circumstances and that you are not getting satisfactory results from the NHS. There is no ED medicine I’m not allowed to buy from this UK certified clinic. Not cheap but neither overly expensive. At least you could try MUSE privately and if it works go to the GP and give it the full Lyn Eyre hair-dryer Alex Ferguson style. I’d be scared ....

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

User
Posted 22 Jun 2019 at 07:39
It says MUSE is currently unavailable due to manufacturers

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

User
Posted 25 Oct 2019 at 13:11
So after the appointment with Dr Doom in June, we finally saw the new ED nurse today to be shown how to use Viridal - OMG!!! The list of dos and don'ts and potential side effects would make anyone consider giving up sex :-/ She and I did not hit it off, partly because she spoke to us like we were idiots and when I asked about possible national shortages she nearly bit my head off.

The ED nurse was adamant that J must not take any Viagra or Levitra in the next 12 weeks and that it is not permitted under NICE guidelines to have prescriptions for more than one ED treatment (yeah, right). She also said that once you have had a priapism, you are not normally allowed to have any kind of alprostadil, etc, ever again so I suggested she read John's notes which clearly show Mr P's risk assessment & rationale for allowing him to continue. I don't think she knew there was an antidote either.

Anyway, first dose implanted and 12 doses collected from the hospital pharmacy - John could feel some reaction although it took us 90 minutes to get home so not much usable erection.

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 25 Oct 2019 at 19:19
I’m afraid Alprostadil never did it for me in either the Caverject or Viridal injection. Maybe I just wasn’t recovered enough but was only ever a part useable erection and shocking after-pain. The Invicorp was a totally different animal. Rock hard and zero effects other than an initial hot flush. Luckily all I need now is my daily Tadalafil which it seems lucky I’m still being prescribed reading others stories.

I really hope it works for you both x

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

User
Posted 25 Oct 2019 at 19:29
Caverject was always rock hard for me, it was the 2 hours waiting to make sure it went away that was the problem. Convinced to this day that it helps "clear out the cavities" though.

I found I had to get up and walk around as the only way to get rid of it,

User
Posted 25 Oct 2019 at 19:51
No pain, no itching, no problem so far :-)
"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 26 Oct 2019 at 08:08

 Thank you Lyn and other contributors for this thread, useful background info for someone like me who is just beginning out to seek treatment for ED.

I am trying to hijack this thread with some questions, hope is okay ? I tried to start a new thread, but wasn't allowed?!

I am 12 weeks post op bilateral nerve sparing. Have been on Cialis 2.5 mg and have tried 20 mg extra on 2 occasions recently, sadly little response only, just about useful for masturbation, self/OH. (There was some activity within a few days post op and was very hopeful, but sadly nothing after and was told that catheter can sometimes give that sensation(

I am worried about atrophy mainly.

Penile pump seem to be the best option and scared to use injections etc.

My questions

1. Where can I buy medical grade pumps and approx costs? For various reasons I dont want to go to my own hospital ED clinic.

2. If Cialis doesn't work now, it should later? Or does that mean, tablets will never work for me ever? I was hoping this will be a simple treatment for ED. The urologist said tablets would work even if nerves are removed, but I had it spared and still doesn't work

3. How long will it take for penis to atrophy? Will masturbation stop penile atrophy (embarrassed to ask this)

4.  Any other suggestions.

Thank you in anticipation

Thala

User
Posted 26 Oct 2019 at 08:39
Firstly you need to look at the bigger picture ok. Even with sparing like myself it can take 2yrs before you are anything like normal spontaneous sex. And even then with tablets etc. Your Cialis dose would be better at 5 mg which is the gold standard. At first I didn’t notice size reduction on full erection , but in time it has settled to maybe 1 1/2 inches smaller , although the pump seems to have made it thicker on full erection. Please please please buy a pump and make it part of your every day for the next few years. It will be your saviour and maintain size and health. With the rings it can be used for penetration but without rings it should be used to achieve full size then hold for at least 10 mins. I used the website imedicare.com and bought a soma erect response 2 which has been awesome. You need to buy the jelly rings also. All in you are looking at £200 delivered , but like I say it is imperative for rehab. I still use mine 3 times a week while shaving and I’m 4 1/2 yrs on. With tablets it’s essential for stimulation whether visual or physical to get good erections , so it really is a partner success story. I still find it hard to masturbate but with my wife it is instant now. I did try injections in my early recovery and loved the invicorp which you can buy privately for a real treat on a date night. Be careful of mixing treatments though. Anyway good luck. There is a thread called “ erecting the erection - medication “ which has loads of info from many men and women so try search fir it

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

User
Posted 26 Oct 2019 at 10:47
thank you Chris

I have now found several threads on ED, I didnt search the forum well until now and are very informative.

BW

Thala

User
Posted 26 Oct 2019 at 11:00

I was offered a penis pump on the NHS, but couldn’t be bothered. I think Her Loveliness is quite pleased!

However, we did enjoy a bit of ‘tweakies’ on our Caribbean cruise last weak - must have been the weather or the rum punches.

Cheers, John.

Edited by member 26 Oct 2019 at 11:01  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 26 Nov 2019 at 00:54

Lyn,

thank you.........I said on other message board I should have taken more time prior to surgery but on reflection I have to say ....I did not know what I did not know.

Your honesty and humour are fantastic.

Good luck to you and other half

User
Posted 26 Nov 2019 at 01:12
None of us know what we don't know; but some think they do :-/

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 26 Nov 2019 at 05:11

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member
1. Where can I buy medical grade pumps and approx costs? For various reasons I dont want to go to my own hospital ED clinic.

Chris answered this.

imedicare will come and demonstrate the pump on you at home for free (even if you bought it yourself), or you could ask to go to a pump clinic (where it's the same person demonstrating it on you). The pump success rates are doubled for people who have been shown how to use it by a professional.

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member
2. If Cialis doesn't work now, it should later? Or does that mean, tablets will never work for me ever? I was hoping this will be a simple treatment for ED. The urologist said tablets would work even if nerves are removed, but I had it spared and still doesn't work

You should be on 5mg/day, providing you don't have angina. The 2.5mg dose is for people who get unpleasant side effects on 5mg/day. This daily low dose works in 2 ways. First, it improves the blood flow in the flaccid penis and this may help prevent atrophy even if there are no erections. (Normally, the flaccid penis is ischemic, and relies on periodic erections to get a good blood supply to the tissues.) So even if you aren't yet getting erections, it probably is working on you. Secondly, it may help you get erections sooner, and make those erections more powerful.

Full erections achieved naturally or using Cialis (or other PDE5 inhibitors) are more effective in protecting the penis than those achieved with a pump, which only stretches the external part of the penis, and not the internal part (which is a similar size). However, use a pump until you can get full erections, as it will improve blood flow to whole penis, even though it's only stretching the external part of the penis.

Tablets absolutely won't generate erections without working nerves. The tablets amplify the arousal signal carried by the nerves from the brain to the penis, but if that signal doesn't reach the penis, there's nothing to amplify. Tablets will improve flaccid blood flow in this case though.

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member
3. How long will it take for penis to atrophy? Will masturbation stop penile atrophy (embarrassed to ask this)

I heard a figure a couple of weeks ago that only 1% of men on hormone therapy (which also limits, and in some men stops erections) don't have some atrophy after a year, although I don't know if there's any scientific basis for that figure. Anything that generates erections, including masturbation will help prevent this. Aim for 15 mins erection every 2 days (imedicare suggestion). Reaching orgasm is not necessary.

And don't be embarrassed to ask. When you can achieve good erections via masturbation, that will be more protective than a pump, due to the pump only stretching the visible part of the penis.

12 weeks is probably a bit soon to expect anything. 6 months is more typical, but keep up the exercises.

User
Posted 26 Nov 2019 at 08:06
Thank you Andy.

Update:

I bought soma erect 2, that set me back approx £200 and have learned the technique easily and works well. Tip: shaving cream and hand wash soap works as well as the lubricant that comes with it and less messy to clean.

Cialis at 20 mg has helped but only partially, there is an erection, but not hard to penetrate. But I am relieved, it means that even if I dont get spontaneous erections , tablets should help

Thanks for the tip , needing erection 15 minutes every 2 days

User
Posted 26 Nov 2019 at 09:01

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member
Cialis at 20 mg has helped but only partially, there is an erection, but not hard to penetrate. But I am relieved, it means that even if I dont get spontaneous erections , tablets should help

That's a good result at just 12 weeks out. Although one can never be sure in advance, it suggests you are likely to make a good long term recovery.

User
Posted 26 Nov 2019 at 10:07

Last week, on the past recommendation of Chris J, I went on Love Honey and bought a £30 pump.  The quality of it seems very good. 

It's 3 years since my op and after constant improvement it recently seemed to be getting worse.  Although I think some of it is mental, perhaps Autumn blues. 

I looked up how to use it on YouTube.  As long as you pump slowly and not too much it works well.

I'm really impressed with the pump and using it only a few times has made an improvement.  It came in an unmarked quite large box only 2 days after ordering.  I suspected it would go to a neighbour and thought what if the package bursts they'll wonder what we get up to.

Edited by member 26 Nov 2019 at 10:10  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 03 Feb 2020 at 18:28

I have just sat and read this thread all the way from the beginning and thank everyone, especially Lynn for sharing so much.  My husband was diagnosed with advanced PC last summer, Gleason 8 with tumours on about 6 vertebrae,  he started on 12 weekly injections of HT Decapeptyl, we live in France so treatment is possibly different here.   In Nov/Dec  he had 10 sessions of RT, not on the prostate, but on one of the spinal tumours that was threatening spinal compression.  The docs here prefer to use Abiraterone as a first line defence, so he was given the decision between chemo or Abiraterone and has now been on Zytiga for 2 months.  Prior to any of this, even after 40 years of marriage we had an active, and very good sex life.  We have been very lucky in that it has always been an important part of our marriage for both of us, so never any problems before.  The effects of all the treatment has therefore been sudden and brutal for us both.  The oncologist prescribed Vitarol cream which has only ever worked once, and even then it didn't do exactly what it had promised.  As my husband has had a triple bypass some years ago, he has to take heart medication, so this rules out any viagra type tablets.

We are considering a pump, but the one suggested by the oncologist is not covered by health insurance here and costs nearly 400 euros - apart from the fact that we would find that quite a lot of money to find, it is a concern that we may shell out that much money and then find it doesn't work.  So I'm wondering if it's just best to buy a cheaper one over the internet and give that a try first.

I am pretty sure that my OH's libido has diminished considerably, he says not, but I suspect he's just being kind and doesn't want to upset me but we both feel a real sense of grief for the loss of the intimacy we previously shared.  He's loving and still very affectionate, but sometimes that can make it worse,  I am finding it really hard (or not, actually!) to accept that we may never make love again.  There aren't the support groups over here that I know are in the UK, the oncologist will talk quite freely about sexual matters but obviously his time is limited and there isn't anyone else to talk to.  

His PC was found 6 months ago after a routine blood test, he had no symptoms at all, so that fact alone was a shock, to discover it was already in his bones completely floored us both - we are finding it very difficult to get back to the busy upbeat sort of people we were not very long ago!  

Thanks for listening - I'd be interested to hear about the efficiency, or not, of any of the cheaper pumps available.

 

 

User
Posted 03 Feb 2020 at 18:59
Pumps definitely work, the fact you want it to work will be a big help especially if you can make its use all part of the fun.

User
Posted 03 Feb 2020 at 19:07
Even a cheap pump can create a full erection. They can’t really fail as it is basic physics. The problem is getting the proper size rings that will hold all the blood in and keep it hard. It’s never the same and the penis can have a floppy hinge and feel cold , but it does the trick. The rings supplied with my proper pump are about the size of a polo mint and super stretchy. Maybe try an adjustable sliding ring from a cheap website

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

 
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