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Mick's day of reckoning part 2

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Posted 02 Jun 2014 at 22:13

Dear Mo,

I heard this morning when Si sent me a text. I have been out until now and unable to get on the forum. I have spent the day thinking about you and your wonderful hubby Mick. It was a privilege to meet him and get to know a little about how he ticks. You have been unstinting in your time, care and support to Mick and to so many others including myself. Take time Mo to breathe and reflect on this devastating news. There are no easy answers here, no text book responses, but you know that you have the forum here to help and guide you in whatever you need.

RIP, Mick. I wish I could have said a proper good bye. You are at peace and there is no pain any more.

Mo, look after yourself now and just shout if you need anything.

User

Posted 03 Jun 2014 at 00:14

Some people are ripped from this earth whilst for others the final moments are gentle and comforting. I have no doubt that Mick held on long enough to get home and that in his last hours, he was contented and felt safe, hearing the words of those most important to him in the world and knowing the hands that touched him were full of love.

My heart aches for you Mo x

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User

Posted 03 Jun 2014 at 13:31

Dear Mo,

So sorry to read this news. My condolences to you & family.

Both of you fought so hard & have gained so much admiration from many members here .

Mick is at rest now and I wish you continued strength over the coming weeks.

With Great respect to two brave people.

Rob

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Posted 03 Jun 2014 at 18:16

So sorry to hear your sad news Mo,we have never met and possibly never will,but I have followed your many posts this last 9 months and my sympathies are with you and your family,be strong. Diesel x

User

Posted 03 Jun 2014 at 21:05

Mo I too am so sorry to hear the news of your dear Mick's passing. We have never met, but I have followed your thread throughout. I was so glad to see you got your beloved man home and the sail away party sounded so amazing. It is nice to see you have so many good friends on here and around you who can help support you through this, but if what I know of you is right you will be back fighting the cause and providing your support to so many people on this site.

My heart goes out to you, I cannot fathom how hard it is to lose someone you love so dear, but you could not have done more to make his last few weeks so special and you will have many happy memories

God bless you and RIP Mick xxx

User

Posted 03 Jun 2014 at 22:25

The last hoorah

I was quite surprised when I got into Mick's post death wishes, if I am honest it is just a true reflection of the man he was and the courageous spirit with which he fought this horrid disease.

No religious service, Mick never believed in God as such but he did not rule out the possibility of some deity he just was not sure what it was. so the service is going to be a civil one with an independent funeral celebrant conducting the service. There is a theme and that is celebrating a wonderful life. He has specifically requested no mourning clothes , no floods of tears (as they could not bring him back and if he could be aware of the events would just make him sad too) definitely no suits or ties or black . He himself is wearing his favourite BBQ T shirt (a xmas gift from his beloved daughter Karen and her partner Mark) a pair of hand me down Bermuda shorts from one of his best buddies Alan and his best flip flops. So he requested that we all dress as if we were going to a mates BBQ or a summer garden party. Shorts, Jeans and T shirts very much the order of the day. His music in will be a jazz rendition of Bring me sunshine a tribute to his comedy heroes Eric and Ernie and also a tribute to our wonderfully talented jazz pianist nephew Paul who composed and plays this arrangement.

His music out is a surprise and is only known to the director and a few others.

The service will probably be quite well attended, with many of his gliding and flying buddies as well as some of you guys and gals here supporting all our friends and family. a bit like a wake without live music.

The wake post service is being organised by Karen and two very dear friends. It should be at our local village pub with a buffet and a beer or two on his Immensitude (Mick) how thoughtful that the chosen venue will be showing the England v Uraguay football match from 8 onwards (only for the stalwarts)

If anyone wants to come along please do , the service is on 19th June at the Lincoln Crematorium on Washingborough Road at 13.10 and the post event is at the Wishing well pub in Cherry Willingham village. Please could you let me know so that I can factor in numbers for the crematorium and the wake party.

Of course Leicester is only a blink behind this so bring it on.

Many thanks to you all for your lovely messages you have no idea how much it helps at this time

User

Posted 03 Jun 2014 at 23:02

I'm lost for words. I don't think even our wonderful language can express my admiration for you. I hope everything goes to plan and Mick's send off is everything and more he wished for.

Paul

Stay Calm And Carry On.

User

Posted 03 Jun 2014 at 23:34

Hello Mo,

Why am I not surprised, Mick quite rightly bowing out in the same great spirit that he enjoyed throughout his life.

I would love to be there but Karen will be working and in the evening we will be starting out on our way to Leicester.

Hopefully we will meet up then and I can see lots of hugs being given.

Stay strong but shed a tear if you feel like it Mo, remember all the good times you had together.

In my last couple of posts to you I have refrained from using my normal signature phrase but I'm sure both you and Mick welcome it's return as it is the way you lived,

So.....

Life is for living

Barry (alias Barrington)

Looks like it will be the Union Jack Waistcoat and bow tie 🇬🇧 for me Mo, not sure about the bottom half though!

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Posted 03 Jun 2014 at 23:45

Way to go Mo. I love this celebration for Mick and whilst it would be a bridge too far for me to come in shorts I think (for me and for others!) and I always wear a suit at my own BBQs but I will try and dress down. Tuxedo too much? I will be there and help give Mick a great send off. Look after yourself and see you soon.

Thinking of you Mo, and never forgetting your man!

User

Posted 04 Jun 2014 at 06:43

Well done Mo. My Mrs said I'd best get my suit out. I had a feeling I may not have to.

I will be popping out from work to attend. Hope they don't mind me wearing my shorts and Hawaiian shirt in the MDT meeting

Bri

User

Posted 04 Jun 2014 at 06:50

Hi Mo,

Ness and i will be there and the twins will be in spirit.

Ness will see you later

All our love.

Don't deny the diagnosis; try to defy the verdict

User

Posted 04 Jun 2014 at 08:41

Sounds like it will be a wonderful send off, Mo, a fantastic tribute to Mick !

Sending love as always,

Fiona.

User

Posted 04 Jun 2014 at 16:50

Hi Mo,

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to come and pay my respects for your fabulous Mick today, and although the reason for my trip over was far from desirable, I actually really enjoyed the chance to have a proper chat with you afterwards too. A truly lovely man and a gentleman too.

Your courage and fortitude of spirit is immense, and I know you will do him proud in a couple of weeks time. I will be wearing white linen trews and flips as requested, and will have to find out my brightest top to go with!! Take care Mandy, and all our love and best wishes from us Scotts. See you then xxx

Don't deny the diagnosis; try to defy the verdict

User

Posted 04 Jun 2014 at 21:21

Hi Mo,

You can count on me to be there but sorry I won't be wearing shortshttp://community.prostatecanceruk.org/editors/tiny_mce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-laughing.gif

BFN

Julie X

NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON

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Posted 04 Jun 2014 at 21:58

Shorts might just be a stretch too far for me too .. linen trews sound good with flips and a nice T shirt ..My eldest sister who has always been a complete reprobate will probably wear a biker shirt, shorts and bobby socks ..kind of Olivia NJ in grease. Everyone seems to be getting into the spirit of this very casual theme.

Went to see Mick today with Ness, had no intention of actually going into the chapel of rest, just to escort Ness. However once I was there it just felt the right thing to do...glad I did Mick really looks peaceful having a lovely snooze, arms across his tummy in his favourite T shirt and shorts.. bless he almost looks well. Went for coffee and naughty cake courtesy of Ness afterwards, lovely chat with another awesome Lady. So touching to have made so many good friends through such bad times.

Had a very emotional phone call from Mick's lovely Oncologist today, know I cannot name him on here but think of Spanish golfers who have a surname starting with B ... he said that Mick was an inspiration to him, full of courage so very strong and with a humour to match. A lovely patient and a shining example of humanity. He also said that I was amazing and a few other lovely things, made me cry a bit but then he then said I could go to him anytime for any reason, he would be there for me. I made him laugh when I said I hoped to God I would never go to him for a professional consult (he only deals with prostate cancer!) how many consultants in the NHS have the time or inclination to go that extra mile.

Little article has also been published on The hospice facebook page, I gave permission for them to go ahead as it had been written before Monday, just seemed right to give back a little to such an amazing organisation.

Karen and I are very much looking forward to meeting everyone at Leicester and thanking you all for such incredible support over the last 12 months. Time now for me to give back a little and try to be of some help to others on this forum.

For those that are coming to Mick's last Hoorah see you there and remember casual is the order of the day xxx

User

Posted 04 Jun 2014 at 22:16

Hi Mo,

What a lovely thought from your oncologist, Mick and you must have made such an impression on him. I expect, like many on here, he was amazed at the way you both carried on with humour and love whilst going through such awful times. Seems strange thing to say at this particular time but you have kept us entertained through your postings. Of course there has been many serious times too but overall it has been the humour and happiness that has been a constant companion in all of your posts.

Bless you Mo and Karen and I are thinking of you

Life is for living

Barry (alias Barrington)

User

Posted 04 Jun 2014 at 23:15

Mo, you constantly amaze me; if I could conduct my life with half your spirit I would be very proud.

Mick will have a wonderful send-off and I will buy you a cup of tea at M-o-t-s ..... unless you decide to take up smoking in which case I will see you in the beer garden.

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User

Posted 05 Jun 2014 at 05:54

What a great oncol.... if only they could all show that kind of concern.

Mo you already have given back ten fold. I'm so pleased to hear you are going to stay around. But also think of yourself for now.....

See you on the 19th. I will be the one with a hankie on my head and water wings

Bri

User

Posted 05 Jun 2014 at 07:55

Only just read this very sad news.

Was lovely to meet you both at Newark.

My sincere condolences to you, and all your family and friends.

Dave

User

Posted 07 Jun 2014 at 19:22

Mo I am so sorry to read that Mick has lost his battle, but it will always be an unequal struggle against this horrible disease

RIP in peace mick

Dorrie and Barry

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