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Each day a challenge

User
Posted 09 Aug 2020 at 15:15

Hi Gilly,

Music, walking and gardening. ....a pond and birds.. 

He will always be with you and your family..

Take care x

Gordon 

 

 

 

User
Posted 09 Aug 2020 at 15:46

I am really sad to read your precious G has passed Gilly.  You have shown great strength posting your journey and your positivity and love has shone through during your tough times.

Sending much love to you and your family.

Ange x

User
Posted 09 Aug 2020 at 18:16

Just so sorry to hear your sad news. It only seems a few days ago that you took him to his seaside place and made special memories. Take care of yourself Gilly and I hope in time that you can enjoy and live your best life with the rest of your family. As others have said G will always be with you .

 

Ann

User
Posted 09 Aug 2020 at 21:08
My condolances and hugs.

Look after yourself whilst you work through this.

I like to think he is somewhere having a pint with Bazza and looking down on us.

X

User
Posted 10 Aug 2020 at 02:43

Gilly, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.

I hope the love from family & friends and also friends here in this community will help you through this sad time. 

He will always be with you, in your heart and in the memories of the wonderful times you spent together.

Steve x

User
Posted 10 Aug 2020 at 07:17

So sorry for your loss Gilly. It's been heartbreaking reading your thread.

I hope you can stay strong 

All the very best

User
Posted 10 Aug 2020 at 07:29

I am so sorry for your loss Gillyflower. I know I will follow the same journey one day X

User
Posted 10 Aug 2020 at 10:51

I'm really sorry to hear of your loss....I've only followed the last few weeks of this thread, but I really feel for what you've been through. I hope I can be as strong when the time comes for me.

User
Posted 10 Aug 2020 at 20:45

I hope they meet each other - they would get on

 

User
Posted 10 Aug 2020 at 22:45

I’m sure they will Gilly.....  My five year old Grandson said to me today, right out of the blue, “you know nanny when people we love die and we don’t see them any more, it’s sad, but they are twinkling stars in the sky and are always with us”.

And I thought to myself how many very special twinkling stars we see in the sky every night..... xx

User
Posted 13 Aug 2020 at 06:04

Children accept things in a different way don't they? My little granddaughter will miss him and she will only remember his kindness and patience, as he never let her see the pain.

I have kept busy but there is that overwhelming loneliness that creeps in sometimes and the knowledge that nothing is ever going to be the same again. I just wish I could rewind and fall in love with him all over again. 

I will continue to support the charity in the hope that one day there will be something that can treat the cancer without the heartbreaking side effects that afflict some.

Keep fighting all you guys on here and never stop telling your loved ones how much they mean to you.  You are all special  and it is love that gets us through the dark times. That never dies.

 

User
Posted 13 Aug 2020 at 09:22

What a lovely, heartfelt post Gillyflower. Your family will be a great source of comfort I’m sure. Your continued support to PCUK is amazing. 

 

Ido4

User
Posted 13 Aug 2020 at 10:55

Bless you Gilly, I'm so thankful he wasn't in pain when the time came. X

Edited by member 13 Aug 2020 at 10:56  | Reason: Not specified

Mrs MAS

User
Posted 13 Aug 2020 at 11:00
So sorry to learn of sad news, my condolences .
Barry
User
Posted 13 Aug 2020 at 17:32

You are a very special lady Gilly. I know it's a cliché that time heals. You will always miss your darling G of course but your pain will lessen as time goes by until you can meet again.

Ann x

User
Posted 14 Aug 2020 at 21:01
Oh Gilly

I am so sorry to read your news on my return from a break. You and G were inspirational in your ‘ togetherness’ and you must be in a sort of shock with everything happening so quickly.

Please accept my condolences Gilly

:(

Xx

User
Posted 17 Aug 2020 at 11:06

Sincere condolences Gilly.  Take care xx

User
Posted 17 Aug 2020 at 11:37
Dear Gillyflower ... so so sorry to read about your loss .... I was close to tears ... Your recent messages are inspiring and although I only have localised prostate cancer I lost my younger brother to this lousy desease in 2018 so can unerstand how you must be feelling.

I'm sure your family will be a great comfort in the days and weeks to come.

xxxx

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User
Posted 17 Aug 2020 at 14:14

Thank you so much everyone. I am taking time out and watching a film this afternoon but imagining my dear husband is just in the next room.

So much to do but my children are fabulous and a dear friend who went through the same loss has warned me I might crash, must eat and must look after myself in case I burn out - Hence the lazy afternoon!

I feel so much for all of you who are battling with this awful disease. I will do all I can to keep supporting the pc charity and if anyone wants support I will pop on here now and then because it really helped to share the moments I found difficult.

Thank you all.

User
Posted 27 Aug 2020 at 15:17
Hi everyone.

The challenge goes on but now it is mine alone. I miss my dear G so much but am getting through each day somehow, sometimes crying but able to have conversations with people without breaking down every time.

I try to think of happy times but still have images in my mind of his last days and feel robbed of the time he was in hospital. I feel angry he was put through so much when we all knew he had little time left.

I know it is normal to feel these things and nothing can change anything now.

All I can say to all, is to cherish every moment with your loved one, and try to stay strong.

I have a strange compulsion to see how you are all doing and thank you all. I will slowly let go of this community too.

I have no specific role now - no longer a wife or carer and struggling to think of myself as a widow. I am still Mum and grandma and will find myself a another role in time. For now it is enough to get through each day and to carry on my dear G 's kindness and love for others.

 
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