Thanks for your replies.
The type of cancer is adenocarcinoma. It wasn't found in every sample, but not sure how many it was found in, I will have to ask, think they took about 23 samples.
I thought I'd feel better after getting the diagnosis, but it just seems like the goal posts are moved all the time. From what you guys say, there's no certainty that that the staging etc will stay the same, and then there's the bone scan, which is worrying me, he had a fall in the summer on his shoulder/top of arm and is still having pain from it, says it feels like the bone. The nurse said yesterday that it's unlikely to be mets, but my mind is on fire! When I asked the Nurse yesterday if it was contained, he said yes, but it's up against the edge, so the T3A staging is confusing for me, as like you say John T3a means it's broken outside the prostate.
I have ordered the Toolkit today, hopefully this will help to guide us. I think Pete is probably leaning towards having surgery, I asked about the surgeon, apparently he is very good and does about 3 a week. He'd been in our trust for the past 5 years. I will message you about those surgeons later John, thanks.
I know things could have been worse and for that I am very grateful.