Hi Allison
well another 3 month deferment will give you both a chance to welcome your new grand baby in a few weeks time and also give you time to mull over future decisions, after all they are Major ones.
I am divided on the answer to Abiraterone or chemo then enzalutamide. If you had the private option I think you can still go Chemo abiraterone and then Enzalutamide. One thing that I would be worried about is leaving any of them too much longer, I am not convinced that Enzalutamide is much help if it is given too late.
Abiraterone seems to work for varying lengths of time look at Si and his amazing success with chemo plus abiraterone. I think I would see what other members here say and make a list of questions for your Oncologist with a pros and cons view in the back of your mind.
As for the return to work/redundancy options I think you know my view, the money should be enough to tide you over and it means you do not have to worry all the time when you are at work. Your company have been so good to give you this option. With your skills and experience you would find agency/consultancy work quite easily and you can usually make that as flexible as you like. Keep your hand in just in case you feel you need to go back full time eventually.
Research your employment options and get to see how things work out for your family situation before you make the decision and then when it comes to the time the decision should be easier to make.
xxxx
Mandy