Toilet after RP

We have been guilty of being over confident of the recovery time in our haste to get the prostate removed. 5 weeks from diagnosis to operation. 

Patience is needed. 

Also he will find trapped wind is an issue post surgery. 

Any questions DM me. 

Stay strong if you can. 

I did the same felt it post  OP. 

Enjoy the weekend.

Hi, thanks for asking.  I seem to be in a daze since all this happened.

The op went ahead as planned on the 13th, an open radical prostectomy(?), the surgeon kindly offered to ring me when surgery was finished. I was at a funeral and for two hours at the wake I held my phone in my hand - no call. Said goodbye to everyone and got in to my daughter's car to discover a missed call from him when he said he had removed the prostate and hoped to have a catch up call with me later. Unfortunately I haven't had another call so until we meet with the consultant in a few weeks time we are none the wiser.

My husband is doing extremely well although I know the catheter is getting on his nerves and he hasn't actually left the house since he came home a week ago. He was in robust good health before the op, cancer not withstanding, and he has a positive outlook.  I feel less positive about the future and I have to hide it.  The tears are still locked in but I do want to sleep an awful lot, I suppose when I'm asleep I am not thinking about the big C.

Hope you have a lovely Christmas.

Best wishes

Hi 

The OP is done. You will be feeling that way. My hubby was the same hated the catheter and did not leave the house needing to stay close to home. Take care and rest up. I slept alot and cried in secret. Support each other. 

I echo what Chris says. Try to enjoy Christmas. 

T4 means incurable, as you know, but incurable does not mean terminal. There's every reason to suppose that your husband will be around for many years to come!

Best wishes,

Chris

Denrog has previously posted that her husband is T3 so I assume the stage 4 comment is related to his PI-RADS score - I don't think they would have offered open RP with adjuvant RT if he was incurable. 

Christmas & New Year celebrations were quiet this year. We were so tired that we were in bed before the midnight chimes.

The catheter has been making him thoroughly sore & miserable, we were told to expect it to be removed  by 14 days post op. I made numerous calls to the hospital trying to chase up the missing appointment, finally yesterday, 25 days post op he had a cystogram & the catheter was removed albeit after a total of 8 hours at hospital.

Today for the first time since surgery he walked up to the village for his newspaper. He remains positive and continence is far better than expected. 

That’s a long time to wait for catheter removal but glad to hear it has gone well and his continence is good.

Well his good progress continues. Virtually no incontinence and he had a night at the pub with his 'mates'  yesterday.

He does tire quickly and tends to be in bed by 10 at the latest.  The surgeon has requested a specific CT scan before his review appointment so we have that coming up and a PSA blood test next Monday. 

I remain positive in his company and have only shared my fears with a couple of close friends.