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sildenafil feeling a bit anxious

User
Posted 09 Jan 2019 at 22:26
I think “Pon Farr” is out of the question for most of us, Trekkers or otherwise :)
User
Posted 09 Jan 2019 at 23:12

Hi Phil,

How did I get on with the pump? Very well, even now.

The sadness for many or tragedy, is that once dealt with for the emergency, you are largely left to get on with recovery issues on your own. Stories about limitations on time to recover, "at 2 years it's as good as it gets", is not necessarily correct for all. But may put many of persevering and getting a recovery. Meds don't all work for everyone, straight away. But after 3 years, they may kick in? Early side effects that last for a few weeks can be overcome with painkillers, depends how bloody mined you are and determined to achieve some success if it's possible.  And you never know.  But, you'd be kicking yourself if you hadn't  done all that was in your power to give yourself that best of chances, wouldn't you?

Anyone fortunate to have a pump has a chance, an opportunity to get the best go at recovery they can. I struggled mentally early on but when you stop and think, if I give up now, I may never ever be able to have sex again? That focuses the mind. l use it a lot, alone and in company. Make it a part of your lovemaking, get over any awkwardness. Embarrassment issues? In the last 5 years plus I have been prodded and explored so often and in so many places by complete strangers, no embarrassment any more.

There should be a service available to all that need it to help them get over any problems with pumps and recovery early on.

:-) Please, keep trying with it. If you can, adjust mentally, so that you are or can have fun with it.

atb

dave

Edited by member 09 Jan 2019 at 23:15  | Reason: Not specified

Do all you can to help yourself, then make the best of your time. :-)
User
Posted 10 Jan 2019 at 00:08

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

l use it a lot, alone and in company.

 

I bet that goes down well when the vicar pops round for a cup of tea https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/Scripts/tinymce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-wink.gif

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 10 Jan 2019 at 00:10

Lol to Lyn:) Vicar :))))

User
Posted 10 Jan 2019 at 07:58

Hi Guys,

Dave that gave us a laugh ' l use it a lot, alone and in company' .

I think i have heard enough now to persuade me to give my 'Sonya' another go. Its difficult when your 26 year old is still in the house with his fiancee. I can imagine being stuck in the tube and i hear 'Dad' being called out with footsteps approaching the bedroom door.....Perhaps a DO NOT DISTURB  sign on the bedroom door will work...

My son and his fiancee are moving into their house very soon so it will be better then.

As for 'Make it a part of your lovemaking' that isn't happening at the moment and my wife really doesn't want to see me use 'Sonya' so its definately not going to be part of our lovemaking.

I am lucky that i only have till October for my last injection and that the Viagra and Ciallis work well at the moment. At the Docs Friday to sort out the prescription for more and i will ask for daily Ciallis and event Viagra - see what she says.

From what i have read on here even if these meds are working its still important to use the pump ? I think my ED clinic should have been routinely booked but i had to ask my S/Nurse to do it for me. And my next appointment with her, my 2nd, is in July. First was in October, 2 months after the end of the RT. i did but my own SomoErect ( Sonya).

I think my wife may be like some others in that her whole thoughts are with curing the cancer, sex is of secondary importance. I get that , but i suppose she doesn't understand the importance to us and how we grieve when it may be lost. i am quite sad at the moment ( blame the HT ) but i have faith that all will return in due course.

Nobody said it would be easy....and i'm not complaining as iv'e been very lucky with side effects so far. Bar the mental s*** from the HT which i could well do without. 16 sessions with the counselor and going strong...

Thank you all so much for your help,

Phil

 

User
Posted 10 Jan 2019 at 08:18

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

l use it a lot, alone and in company.

 

I bet that goes down well when the vicar pops round for a cup of tea https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/Scripts/tinymce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-wink.gif

 

;-)  We don't share, she has her own!

https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/Scripts/tinymce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-wink.gif

Do all you can to help yourself, then make the best of your time. :-)
User
Posted 10 Jan 2019 at 08:41

More tea vicar, perhaps another custard cream biscuit?!

Don’t mind me I’ll be back in a few minutes......🤣

 

 

Ido4

User
Posted 10 Jan 2019 at 13:04

' We don't share, she has her own!'

God you crack me up - we need more humour on here . Been having a bad day , getting a lot of bad memories forcing their way in today and that's just what i needed to pick me up.

Keep it up - so to speak.https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/Scripts/tinymce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-wink.gif

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