New to this and scared

Thank you so much and that really makes sense. You don’t realise until you’re in this position how unimportant some things are in life and things that used to wind my OH off he just laughs at now

Yeah I do definitely understand that and initially it did with me and my OH but I now feel the struggle with everything and the guilt that it’s not about me at all and why do I feel so bad and why do I think a bottle of wine will blank everything out and make matters better when it makes things 10 times worse 

I have always liked a social drink,  due to my 22 years in the Army. For the five weeks I was on radiotherapy it was important that I had no gas in my intestines and I kept myself well hydrated so collateral damage was reduced whilst I was having treatment.

 I did not touch alcohol for the whole five weeks and strangely I was so taken with the five hour days and the side-effects I didn’t miss alcohol at all 

Between being diagnosed and starting hormone therapy I  turned to alcohol for relief but as you say it does definitely makes things very much worse.

My wife had to get to know my mood. In the first month or so I was angry with everyone. Then I got to the feeling sorry for myself and not wanting to talk about it,  as I knew if I did, I would burst into tears and that was simply not done for a bloke .

my wife had to read up on all the information she could find to under what I was going through.  At first she couldn’t work out why I was so disinterested sex as we have previously Had an active sex life.  Of course this was caused by the hormone therapy but I hadnt  felt like talking to her about it. Once I got my Radiotherapy appointments  we started to talk a lot about all the problems and once we talked I felt much better.

i now felt able to cry on her shoulder and accept help. I hope you can get to this point, it helped me no end

Edited by member 19 Sep 2018 at 20:04  | Reason: Not specified

Louise it’s vital you stay on here and tell us what your Dads PSA was on discovery and then every bit of information you get subsequently.

There are many members on here that can help you come to terms with your dads prognosis and give you informed. Many people on here will have had the same diagnos as your Dad. 

Getting a bone scan the next day is very quick and a good thing. If by P you mean PSA many on here including myself have higher readings, mine was 38. Please don’t worry too much till you have Dads Gleason score, which you will only get after a biopsy, But he needs a DRE (Digital Rectal Examination) then a Biopsy To find out the true stage of his prostate cancer.

 I can fully understand how worried you are, having been there myself, but about your dad‘s condition, you will not know anything concrete at all about his prognosis until he gets his Gleason score and T Rating. 

 Until then you need to keep him calm and try to get through to him that just because he has raised PSA this not mean he is going to not be here for your birthday that you mention.

 Please stay strong keep us up-to-date on here about your dad’s diagnosis that way we can give you targeted advice to help you through this 

Edited by member 19 Sep 2018 at 21:06  | Reason: Not specified

Then Dad will have  Gleason score, if his Biopsy was about a couple of weeks ago.

i.e. My Gleason score after biopsy was 4:5 T2c. This is. What you are looking for. The 4:5 is the grade of cancer and the T grade is where it is in the body

I will post tomorrow and update xx

Ok I will thank you x