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Posted 05 Feb 2016 at 07:40

Good luck Steve
Barry

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Posted 07 Feb 2016 at 03:41

Hi,

With all the daily medications I have to take (16 in total), I thought it was worthwhile reading through the info sheets again to see if me peeing blood could be a side effect of taking any of them.

I found that was unlikely but something I read, did seem to apply to me but in a slightly different way.

On a couple of meds, nightmares were a common side effect. Since my treatment started, I have had wonderful dreams almost every night. I look forward to going to sleep to have these dreams, and the happiness they provide.

To me, my nightmare begins when I wake up.

Steve

Edited by member 07 Feb 2016 at 03:47 | Reason: Not specified

User

Posted 07 Feb 2016 at 09:12

Wow, that's horrible for you Steve, that you should be happier asleep to escape the day's horrors.

Nothing you can do about it either is there, since you have to take the medication.

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails

User

Posted 07 Feb 2016 at 10:16

Hi Sandra,

People have told me I should post what I feel even thought it's caused me trouble in the past.

I just wish there was a way I could achieve the feeling of happiness when I'm not sleeping. Perhaps that's not possible with what's going on at the moment.

I've always had faith that Heaven may provide the same happiness when death comes.

Steve x

User

Posted 07 Feb 2016 at 11:55

When you are asleep Steve the real world recedes, you can pick and choose the things that make you happy (unless you're having a nightmare of course - but that isn't your problem is it) and who would choose to think of the things that are wrong in our lives or make us sad.

I am glad you have faith to believe that death (when it eventually comes) will provide a safe haven, but you have to live until then with all that is going on in your life.
You know full well that your family would mourn your loss as would we so can I be a bit selfish and ask you to concentrate on that. If life is beyond your control at the moment there is nothing you can do about it except grit your teeth and wait for the next corner to be turned. Think of those babies who are just getting to know you.

I wish that faith could help you over the current secular hurdles too.

If it helps to post then carry on. You know that we would help if we could, unfortunately we can only be online support, but as usual we are here with the listening ear.

My best to you and yours Steve. You'll get past this, just be patient
x

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails

User

Posted 07 Feb 2016 at 16:29

Steve

I really feel that you are crying out for help but are not sure where to go.

I am not sure either, if I am honest.

I know you have some problems that are not related to the illness but are a result of it, and which you want to remain confidential, which I can understand.

That said, maybe if you mention them here others may have some constructive advice. If other members aren't happy with the subject matter, then they do not need to read the thread, that is up to them.

There may be others on here with similar issues who could do with the pointers too.

Perhaps you would benefit from a chat with the nurses on here, I have emailed them before when I have not felt like chatting and they have emailed me back. They could point you in the right direction regarding the unmentioned issues.

Got to be worth a try - the way you are talking about sleep and death, I really do feel that you need support, as others have said, you have so much to live for!

All the best

Alison

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Posted 07 Feb 2016 at 19:36

Have messaged you Steve but appear to be having trouble with my computer screen. Everything's gone tiny and I couldn't find the post button so had to go round about. Hope it arrived anyway

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails

User

Posted 07 Feb 2016 at 21:13

Thanks Allison & Sandra,

Sandra, I received the message.

Steve x

User

Posted 09 Feb 2016 at 17:45

Hi,

I feel so relieved, I've achieved what I was hoping for with the situation I've faced in the last few weeks.

I'd like to thank everyone who sent me a PM to offer their support at one of my lowest times and having patience with me as it was something I was not able to post openly on this site.

Thank you for sticking by me.

Steve

User

Posted 09 Feb 2016 at 18:20

Like glue my good man, like glue.

Sounds like you may have resolved it. Best wishes to all of you. Start again eh?

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails

User

Posted 09 Feb 2016 at 19:56

Great news Steve.

Hope you can concentrate upon getting yourself over this problem now and enjoying life a little more again.

Two lovely grandchildren to enjoy!

Alison

User

Posted 09 Feb 2016 at 21:21

Good news Steve

Really pleased that the situation you were facing has been resolved

Arthur

User

Posted 09 Feb 2016 at 23:22

Hi Steve , pleased to hear this. Hopefully now you can now concentrate on your health and wellbeing and can feel more optimistic about the future. Cheers Georgina

User

Posted 10 Feb 2016 at 05:49

hi steve you can now focus and zoom in on what matters, picture the scene in a few months you will not need photoshop, the colours will be vivid, just keep your finger on the button lens cap off and enjoy the picture

this is about the time when the wife says 'nigel stop its getting on my nerves'

regards
nidge

ps
canon rules ok

run long and prosper

'pooh how do you spell love'

'piglet you dont spell love -you just feel it'

User

Posted 29 Feb 2016 at 20:41

Hi,

Decided to stop taking my anti-depressant tablets yesterday because if they're suppose to improve things for me, they weren't working. Not helping in anyway.

Most of the time they make me feel as if nothing really matters. I've been told that the house could fall down around me and it wouldn't bother me. Probably true.

Enough is enough.

Steve

User

Posted 29 Feb 2016 at 20:52

Have you gone "cold turkey" Steve?

Won't that be a bit drastic on your system, after all your body has been used to it for a while.

I can see why you'd want to leave them off if they were leaving you on another planet, I'm just concerned it may be a bit sudden.

Did you consult a doctor first.

Sorry, it's the mother hen bit in me. You know your own business best. Hope it works out for you

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails

User

Posted 29 Feb 2016 at 21:10

Hi Steve,

I am sure I will get told off for supporting you, but life is short, and we might as well do what we like, and enjoy ourselves.

I have loads of tablets I don't take, like statins (because they give me cramp), and several others.

Some days I suddenly think to myself, did I take my tablets this morning? or did I take those tablets last night?

To my way of thinking, if I can't tell whether I have taken my tablets or not, then they can't be having much of an impact, leastwise not in the short term.

The thing is, if you still have a stock of the tablets to hand, you can always take one if you feel the need.

Best of luck.

Dave

User

Posted 29 Feb 2016 at 21:19

It should tell you on the packaging about coming off the medication. As far as I am aware it's not a good idea to suddenly stop anti - depressants...but I think you already know that Steve.

Bri

User

Posted 29 Feb 2016 at 21:22

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

The thing is, if you still have a stock of the tablets to hand, you can always take one if you feel the need.

Best of luck.

Dave

Unfortunately, anti-d's don't work like that, you can't just take one when you feel the need. Anti-depressants work in a number of ways, they reduce anxiety but also affect the serotonin levels in the brain Take away the anti-anxiety component and you will get a resurgence of anxiety. Not medically trained, but been there, done that and still have the t-shirt (and wearing it!)

User

Posted 29 Feb 2016 at 23:31

Hi Thistledubh,

I bow to your greater knowledge, antidepressants is not something I have experience of, and Steve will do well to follow your advice.

However in the wider range of medical matters, I think there is a tendency amongst our no doubt overworked GP's, to put us on tablets for one reason or another and then just leave us on repeat perscriptions without having periodic reviews of whether we still need that medication.

I guess the correct advice to anyone who is unhappy with their medication is to get back in touch with their GP and ask for a review?

Dave

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