Nevyn
When was your staging moved to T4N0M1 ?
I seem to remember you were originally diagnosed as T3aN0MO
This might be why you were not offered stampede back then, at that time (please correct me anyone if I am wrong) the arms of the stampede trial that were recruiting were only open to newly diagnosed men with metastatic PCa. Your staging back then was not showing Mets. Some men got the early chemo if they were randomly selected for it in that arm of the trial.
Now your staging is showing early Mets so I would definitely push for a 2nd opinion and if you want it and can get it go for chemo. The fact you are only 57 and I assume other than PCa fit and well would align you with others who have had positive benefit from going this route.
The 22 month figure is a bit vague as many men involved in the trials are still doing well today. The true figures take many years to be accurately reflected.
I am a firm believer in hitting this cancer with everything you can as soon as you can if diagnosed with metastatic spread when a man is relatively young fit and otherwise healthy.
I wish you all the best at your review today. Take notes or ask if you can record the conversation, especially if you are going on your own. At least then you can play back to get complete recall.
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Mo