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Today is the First Day of the Rest of my Life

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Posted 16 Jan 2015 at 08:00

Take time to chill over the weekend. Good luck for Monday. The no heart attack diagnosis is good, even though it is frustrating not to know what is going on?

ATB

Dave

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Posted 16 Jan 2015 at 22:01

Hi,

Thanks for all your messages.

Facing a long, long weekend until my op on Monday.

My Cardiac Rehab nurse has ordered me to rest after the events of the last couple of days. She said she'd prefer me to stay in bed all weekend but that won't happen. I will rest but doing nothing is driving me mad after eight weeks.

I know physically, with my breathlessness, it's harder for me to do much, but I would have loved to take a walk in the sunshine this afternoon. It's hard when you're not allowed to do that.

I think I'd like to write a book, been thinking about it for a while. It wouldn't be for publication but I would like my children and grandchildren (assuming more arrive one day) to read it one day and know how much I've enjoyed my life and how much I loved them. I want to share my experiences with them at a time they would be interested.

My uncle wrote a book about his wartime experiences. He would never discuss them as he'd been badly effected by them but I'm really glad he did.

I was researching my family tree and was always frustrated that I really knew nothing of my ancestors apart from their names.

Perhaps this weekend would be a good time to start.

Sorry to ramble on but I'm a bit bored.

Have a good weekend.

Steve

Edited by member 16 Jan 2015 at 22:07 | Reason: Not specified

User

Posted 16 Jan 2015 at 22:24

Go for it Steve
Xxx
Mo

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Posted 16 Jan 2015 at 22:42

Writing is definitely therapeutic whether just for yourself or blogging or for family. So it's certainly worth doing! I have been blogging about my condition since I started though on a private blog with close friends and am half way through a novel and whatever happens to it the act of ding it has been very therapeutic and fun. So pick up your pen!

User

Posted 16 Jan 2015 at 23:41

The Act of Ding is a good name for a book, Paul. People closest to me have often said I must have at least one good novel in me but like you I write so much on work related topics it doesn't look much like a pleasure right now. Perhaps when I am a bit older I will follow your lead, my brainy friend x

Steve, write away and I imagine that any book you create would be filled with images that are important to you as well? Perhaps they should be your starting point for this weekend.

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User

Posted 17 Jan 2015 at 09:29

Steve

I was only thinking the other day you ought to write a book. Please tell me you will not be posting during the op on Monday.

Best wishes Chris

User

Posted 17 Jan 2015 at 09:35

I think we should all write an account of our lives for posterity, Better than a diary as it would consolidate the thoughts and experience of our lives for our progeny.

Hope the weekend passes without incident Steve and Monday passes off successfully. Be patient. Monday will come soon enough.

Lots of love
Allison

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Posted 17 Jan 2015 at 11:09

Thanks for the messages.

Chris... me...posting during the op ! Surely not. Well, yes probably would if I could, even if it only took my mind off what they were doing to me. Unfortunately, they will be slicing my right wrist during the op so my writing hand will be out of action. In fact, I'm supposed to keep my right arm straight for 24hours so posting will be a bit difficult.

Allison, I totally agree with you that everyone should write their autobiography. I think people's lives are so interesting even if they haven't done lots of different things, it helps understand them better. I'm a great believer in the phrase "Do not judge me, unless you have lived my life".

I have been so privileged to meet so many interesting people during the course of my work. Fortunately, I have usually got on ok with most of them. I may post later with a few stories of some of those who I have a special place in my memories.

Keep in touch.

Steve

Edited by member 17 Jan 2015 at 11:11 | Reason: Not specified

User

Posted 17 Jan 2015 at 11:34

My mother-in-law has been in hospital for a week - probably not coming out till Tuesday, so I am a bit behind with what's been posted.

You've been put through the mill, Steve, and you are probably dealing with your misfortunes in the right way. I'm not brilliant with words, numbers are my thing, but I am sure you would find a book for your family therapeutic.

Good luck with your treatment.

Paul

Stay Calm And Carry On.

User

Posted 17 Jan 2015 at 11:56

One of my sisters had a bit of a troubled mixed up teenaged life and she's a great one for writing so has written instalments which she reads out to me periodically. She's found it puts things in perspective.

My dad before he died, wrote us all a breakdown of his life, admitting where he had gone wrong (and also confirming at the same time that we do not have a brother somewhere in the world! so it laid that myth to rest)

Perhaps start a journal of your life for private viewing and see where that goes, but since you have some wonderful anecdotes of the people you have met and photographed, which you could share, go for it.

Do the happy bits first, especially while you are recovering !!!!

Good luck for Monday Best Wishes Sandra

Edited by member 17 Jan 2015 at 11:57 | Reason: Not specified

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails

User

Posted 17 Jan 2015 at 12:00

Thanks Paul,

Hope your mother-in-law's treatment is successful and she has a comfortable time while she's there.

Steve

User

Posted 17 Jan 2015 at 13:49

Thanks Sandra,

I think your message sums up perfectly what I was trying to say. It would be such a valuable exercise for anyone to do and would be a valuable gift for the family.

I certainly wish my dad had had the opportunity to do this. He died at the age of only 47 from a heart attack when I was only 18. I still miss him now, he was such a great dad who really sacrificed a lot for me.

My mum has been perfect too. She's now in her mid eighties, unfortunately showing signs of dementia. I made the difficult decision not to tell her of my cancer or my heart attack because I know that she would worry herself to death. I hope to beat both illnesses. I will tell her if it becomes necessary but until then I don't want her to sad. I'm sure there are many times she has done the same to protect me from hurt. It's now my turn to do the same. If anything happened suddenly to me, my sister would tell her my reasons and explain it was done out of love.

Well, thanks again for all the messages you have posted since I joined the community. I think I better sign off now before I bare anymore of my soul.

Steve x

Edited by member 17 Jan 2015 at 13:51 | Reason: Not specified

User

Posted 18 Jan 2015 at 19:58

Hi,

Looking forward to finally getting my heart sorted tomorrow. I'm not sure how easy it will be to post due to my situation. I'll try.

I just wanted to thank everyone here for all the support you have been to me. It's helped me through everything.

I have made arrangements for someone else to post for me if things don't turn out as I hope so you won't be left wondering what's happened. I'm sure that won't happen, I'm very confident.

Steve

User

Posted 18 Jan 2015 at 20:40

All the best for tomorrow Steve.
Will be thinking of you.

Kevin

User

Posted 18 Jan 2015 at 21:24

Good luck for tomorrow Steve.

While you are having the procedure done concentrate on your writing and the new you afterwards.

BFN

Julie X

NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON

User

Posted 18 Jan 2015 at 21:41

I will be thinking of you tomorrow Steve hope all goes well and I am sure you will post as soon as you can to let us know how you are diddling.
xx
MandyMo

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Posted 18 Jan 2015 at 22:37

Good luck for tomorrow Steve, I'm sure they will have you up and running that marathon in no time.

All the best

Roy

User

Posted 18 Jan 2015 at 22:43

Before I go to sleep I just wanted to say good luck for tomorrow Steve.

Praying it all goes well and you are back to good health really soon.

Lots of love
Allison

User

Posted 18 Jan 2015 at 23:45

Best wishes for tomorrow and this will another hurdle overcome.

Barry

User

Posted 19 Jan 2015 at 08:52

Hope all goes/has gone well Today Steve.

You'll soon be up and doing.

Best Wishes
Sandra

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails

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