Hi Jacie, I hope that by now you have managed to sort things out.
I went through this for a few weeks when my partner went down the rabbit hole and didn't want to talk about anything to do with his cancer. He was sarcastic, snappy, belittling and cold towards me which is so unlike him. I found myself walking on eggshells... awful times.
Eventually I sat him down and told him just how awful he was being. "I know you have cancer and I know you are scared but that doesn't give you a license to be so mean to me" I told him. I explained to him that we had both been given this diagnosis and that for me, the fear of loss was just as crippling as his fear of death. I told him that all I wanted to do was support him through this but I couldn't do that when he was using me as his battering ram.
Things changed after that. Occasionally he still goes off on one but quickly apologizes and comes over and hugs me. Thank goodness we are back to being a team because if he'd carried on like he had, I dread to think what would eventually happened to our relationship. The one thing it did give me was an alternative insight as to why relationships going through this can break down.
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