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New topic areas for specific groups

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Posted 22 Mar 2017 at 17:48

But even with a specific topic area you are going to have the same few people responding to your questions Nomad - questions that are so specific only your surgeon can answer them. If you don't want people that have had other treatments to reply then just say on your thread 'replies from others that have had LRP only, please.' I think what you will find is that you don't get many replies because other members don't know why you are incontinent. You have already found that when you ask direct questions of other men they haven't responded - not because they don't care but because they are not the surgeon that cut your tubes. People like me and Johsan may not be what you want but we reply because we hate to see anyone getting no responses. I will desist if that is what you prefer

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

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Posted 22 Mar 2017 at 18:46

Me too.
I have no wish to offend anyone or assume that I know (as a mere woman) what men going through PC, treatments and after effects, feel like
I answer if I think a new person wants a bit of a boost and sometimes I worry that a newbie will feel rejected if there is a delay in replying.

 

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Posted 22 Mar 2017 at 23:15

I think Michael may have been misunderstood. As I read it, he is wanting a topic section for 'Incontinence', sub sectioned into treatment that gave rise to it. He does not wish to spend time reading about various treatments for other things from whosoever or have I got it wrong?

If I am correct, where would such refinement end. Many men also have ED, would it be sensible to have a section for this with subsections for men who had robotic and open, for those using pumps and various other ways? In the same way subsections could be introduced for various forms of treatment to the point it became absurd.

Of course men, their partners and family are foremost interested in their own situation and there is nothing to stop them asking any question and they only need read what interests them. However, this is a support forum where members not only seek support but give it to others. To do this, it helps if members increase their knowledge of the subject by reading about situations and treatment that affects others and not just them!


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Posted 22 Mar 2017 at 23:23

I've found the general approach to who reads/answers posts works really well for me ... when I've wanted a specific answer I've just asked a specific question and have always had lots of replies (some more to the point than others, but all encouraging and friendly which is one of the things I like about this forum.

BUT the fact that very few of us use the tags option means that it's very hard to hunt for / find previous threads on a topic (which is what I tried to do when I first joined). There must be lots of useful stuff out there that hardly anyone can recall. Maybe if there was a drop-down menu of key tag topics that we could use when appropriate it would help?

 

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Posted 22 Mar 2017 at 23:40

Good points - I have never used the tags but will look at them next time I start a thread.

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

 
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