In need of some support from someone who understands

Indigo, my mum had an horrific drawn out death but when I remember it now, what I remember is how peaceful she looked in the last minutes, and then I remember funny and happy things that happened in our lives - to respond to posts like yours I have to make an effort to remember the horrible bits because they are not at the front of my mind. Time is a wonderful thing and you will get there, I promise - maybe not in the next few weeks and months but eventually you will remember him and feel happy that he was so loved.

I am so very sorry for your loss, your Dad was very blessed to have a wonderful and truly caring daughter like you.

The love you have for him will never fade but as Lyn has so eloquently said, with time the memory of the pain and suffering will. Then all your memories will be the happy ones.

The coming days will be really hard for you and your Mum and your family as you prepare for his funeral. For me it was almost 3 weeks of blank days so many things to do and anxiety about every single one of them. My family and friends were amazing. There was nearly always someone with me unless I specifically asked to deal with something alone.

The people you have here on the forum will be here whenever you need to chat or even just for you to share how you are feeling.

I send you a very big hug and thank you for being such a wonderful daughter for your parents to be proud of.

XXX

Mo

Sorry for your loss even although it was expected its just as hard on us.

My thoughts are with you and family.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can only echo Lyn's words, for some time after my dad died I could only see his face at the end (not something I care to remember). But after a while, my vibrant, loving, tall (he wasn't really but he was to me) amazing dad came back to me. I was so grateful for that, I'm sure it will happen to you too. I can hear his voice and see his lovely face and it makes me happy.

With sincere condolences

Allison xx