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Posted 24 Jan 2016 at 13:45

Indigo, my mum had an horrific drawn out death but when I remember it now, what I remember is how peaceful she looked in the last minutes, and then I remember funny and happy things that happened in our lives - to respond to posts like yours I have to make an effort to remember the horrible bits because they are not at the front of my mind. Time is a wonderful thing and you will get there, I promise - maybe not in the next few weeks and months but eventually you will remember him and feel happy that he was so loved.

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard
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Posted 24 Jan 2016 at 15:00

My condolences. The sad memories uppermost in your mind at present will fade over time and you will remember and treasure the happy times.

Barry
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Posted 24 Jan 2016 at 16:16
Indigo
I am so very sorry for your loss, your Dad was very blessed to have a wonderful and truly caring daughter like you.
The love you have for him will never fade but as Lyn has so eloquently said, with time the memory of the pain and suffering will. Then all your memories will be the happy ones.
The coming days will be really hard for you and your Mum and your family as you prepare for his funeral. For me it was almost 3 weeks of blank days so many things to do and anxiety about every single one of them. My family and friends were amazing. There was nearly always someone with me unless I specifically asked to deal with something alone.

The people you have here on the forum will be here whenever you need to chat or even just for you to share how you are feeling.

I send you a very big hug and thank you for being such a wonderful daughter for your parents to be proud of.

XXX
Mo
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Posted 24 Jan 2016 at 16:27

Indigi, please accept my condolences for your sad loss, even though it was not unexpected It must be totally devastating for you.

Take all the good memories that you have of him and store them in your heart and remember him as you knew him and not how pain and this terrible disease made him.

My thoughts are with you

Regards and best wishes Chris/Woody

Life seems different upside down, take another viewpoint

User
Posted 24 Jan 2016 at 16:50
Indigo
Sorry for your loss even although it was expected its just as hard on us.
My thoughts are with you and family.
User
Posted 24 Jan 2016 at 17:35
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your dad.

You have been a wonderful daughter to him. I have no doubt how proud he was of you. Being the father of a girl I know from experience the bond there is between a dad and a daughter. It is easy for me to say but I do feel your pain.

Thinking of you at this very sad time.
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Posted 24 Jan 2016 at 21:17
Dear Indigo
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can only echo Lyn's words, for some time after my dad died I could only see his face at the end (not something I care to remember). But after a while, my vibrant, loving, tall (he wasn't really but he was to me) amazing dad came back to me. I was so grateful for that, I'm sure it will happen to you too. I can hear his voice and see his lovely face and it makes me happy.

With sincere condolences
Allison xx

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Posted 24 Jan 2016 at 22:12

Indigo,

Words are inadequate. I'm so sorry.

David

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Posted 25 Jan 2016 at 18:28
As always you have all given wonderful support. From day one of finding this page you have all offered support. You all just get it which is a great comfort. I'm just sorry that everyone on this page has experienced the cruelty of this horrid disease in some capacity. Xx
 
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