sm117,
I am sad that you have taken Ray's response that way - he is the kindest and most considered of people and has told you what you probably need to know but others may be worried about saying. One of the things we all learn on here eventually is that facts equip us much better than denial or misunderstanding.
What did the consultant's secretary say about whether a T test had already been ordered? Also, when you say you have spoken to the PCa nurses, do you mean the ones at PCUK? I think Julie's comment about the nurses arranging for GP to do the test was about your dad's specialist nurse at the hospital NOT the PCUK ones.