Regaining Erections

Hi sf2, ask the GP or ED nurse for a prescription for Levitra - it works slightly differently to Viagra and may just be the kick start you need. Or maybe you need to buy some of those extra TV channels that need a PIN number to whet your appetite 🙈
Tablets won't work if you are not feeling like a sexy beast!

I am so sorry you are having such a troubling time. It does sound like some of your issues may be made worse by an inability to communicate comfortably and with a degree of confidence with your OH, or worse still a lack of some concern on her part for what could be at stake.

It might be that she is a little scared or inhibited or that she has just lost her own desire for 9ne reason or another, we women are complex creatures!

Maybe once she has retired and can probably relax with more time on her hands you will be able to start romancing her once again and you can start to work through this as a couple.

Best wishes

Xx

Mo

Mo

She's never had a high sex drive, and she is very inhibited. She has never been interested in anything the slightest bit kinky, which I have found frustrating but learned to accept. To be fair, I had a very innocent upbringing, and was a very shy teenager, so didn't get up to things many youngsters do!!

I don't beat myself up about it as I have many things in my life to be grateful for. There are many people in this world who would love to be in my position - good home, fantastic kids, 3 of our parents still alive and doing better than anyone could reasonably expect, financially secure, and am able to spend a lot of time doing things that bring great pleasure such as the theatre and concerts. (We love the Royal Exchange and Bridgewater Hall.)

I have my golf on top of that, so I have nothing to let me feel down too much.

My posts really are there to help others in a similar position. If I have the confidence to post my experiences and they help anyone to understand the consequences and emotional impact of PCa, ( I try to be as positive as I can), then it is worthwhile.

Paul

your post made me smile, I am sure things are going to get so much better for you.

xx

Mo

It's a tight fit!

I've had 2 great weekends.  The day after my OH retired, we went to Sweden to stay with my younger daughter's boyfriend's mother and had a fabulous time.

Today I finished 5/129 in my club's comp.  Feeling pretty pleased with myself!

Edited by member 10 May 2015 at 21:50  | Reason: Not specified

I tried a different approach today. After I came home from golf, having eaten nothing since breakfast, I took a sidenafil tablet, had a shower, and we engaged in some fun.

I still can't manage enough of a stir for intercourse, but the most embarrassing thing is the uncontrolable although relatively small amount of leakage that occurs. My OH, and I can understand why, finds it a real turn off, although if things keep improving, maybe we'll accomplish something more worthwhile, wearing a condom.

I am finding it harder to climax as well, so my OH has suggested the shower in the morning again, especially as there was a significant response with no tablet the last time. The other advantage is, of course, we'd both be less aware of unwanted leakages.

We'll keep trying - we're only just over a year post op and in a good place.

Paul