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Posted 31 May 2015 at 17:41

Thanks for the update, Chris. I send my condolences and thoughts to all the families of these men and my empathy with their grief.

Fiona.

User

Posted 31 May 2015 at 18:14

Very sad that so many men have their lives cut short by this rotten disease. My sincere condolences to their families and friends. Let's hope that a combination of more widespread awareness, earlier diagnosis and better treatment will greatly reduce men passing on in this way and that an absolute cure may be found sometime soon.

Barry

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Posted 31 May 2015 at 19:35

Hi Chris,

Thank you for keeping us all updated, although many myself included will not recognise these names it is so important to validate and honour every family and every man that is lost to this dreadful disease, lets all hope that one day in the not to distant future that with new treatments to combat PC that Chris will one day be starting a new thread for the survivors.

BFN

Julie X

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User

Posted 31 May 2015 at 19:46

Thank you Chris,

Sad news.

Is it possible for you to add date of diagnosis for them?

I do not do Facebook, well, rarely, as i had a self obsessed size 26 X who had FAS, lived on there 60/60/24/7/365 or 6, so I loathe it with an irrational passion. Not that I am bitter? PMSL!

dave

Do all you can to help yourself, then make the best of your time. :-)

User

Posted 31 May 2015 at 20:06

Chris

thanks for posting although we may not know these Men or their families we all are mindful that there are many others outside of this forum who lose their lives to this horrid disease.

My condolences to their families and friends.

See you and Shirley in a few weeks time

xxx

User

Posted 31 May 2015 at 21:54

Dave, i hadn't thought of asking about DX dates, but I think it would be too intrusive at a time when the widows are grieving, my idea for doing the listing was to help the ladies to know that their menfolk weren't forgotten.

Not long to M O S, and comparing notes time, and hoping the Alister is fit enough for his cruise.

Chris.

User

Posted 15 Jul 2015 at 21:56

Thanks to the Ladies site, I've been notified of another man taken too soon.

RIP Bert, been suffering for the last 4 years and spent the last 7 weeks in a Hospice at Falkirk.

Our sincere condolences to his widow Irene. xxxx

Bert will be remembered.

User

Posted 16 Jul 2015 at 15:10

Also sending condolences to Irene on the loss of her husband,

Fiona. x

User

Posted 20 Sep 2015 at 21:29

I am notifying you all that Rob, a long time member of the Forum and the previous one too died last Tuesday.

Our sincere condolences to Michele.

George, Shirley and I intend to go to his funeral.

RIP Rob.

Chris.

User

Posted 23 Sep 2015 at 22:01

Off to Rob's funeral tomorrow, meeting George at Oxford Station, then driving down to the funeral.

RIP Rob.

It will soon be time to close this list ready for me to print out ready for our service of Remembrance on November 1st, it is with regret that I do not intend to start an Absent Friends 5 for 2015/6 because this site seems not to want me posting, but I will continue to monitor and list every man who dies of PCa that I am notified of or see listed on here so NO ONE will be forgotten.
(it is also because there is now the Facebook pages as competition)

So, just because I'm not posting so often I still look regularly!

Chris.

User

Posted 23 Sep 2015 at 22:54

I can only speak for me (although I may be speaking for others) however I am pleased that the "fallen" are mentioned here as I am in the incurable camp and know that barring car crash etc before I will be one of those one day and would like to be remembered even if only for 6 hours on an Internet chat page.

Yes there are times when I have read a name that I dint know however always have a thought for them and reminds me how lucky I am that I am here today in whatever condition so I for one hope you keep on posting as sadly this is a reality of many of our situations one day and to read about a fellow sufferers demise both makes me sad but gives me energy to keep my name off the list as long as I can.

PC is a bugger but as someone who has it I want and need to know both ends of the spectrum, I hope others see my point and you are able to continue posting

Kev

Dream like you have forever, live like you only have today Avatar is me doing the 600 mile Camino de Santiago May 2019

User

Posted 23 Sep 2015 at 23:33

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

Off to Rob's funeral tomorrow, meeting George at Oxford Station, then driving down to the funeral.

RIP Rob.

So, just because I'm not posting so often I still look regularly!

Chris.

What? I don't understand - and probably better not to know - the references to you not being wanted but how can we possibly NOT have a continuation of the Absent Friends thread???? The only time that would be accepatable is the day they find a cure and our men stop dying :-(

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User

Posted 24 Sep 2015 at 00:35

Hi,

I will be at Rob's funeral later today. I think it's really important that I'm there to honour a man who helped, not only me, but many others on this site. I regret never being able to meet him to say thank you. This will be my way of saying it now.

Chris, what you do is so important. Please continue to post this thread, it's right that you should do this. If anyone is not happy about it they don't have to read it.

Steve

User

Posted 24 Sep 2015 at 06:14

How lovely of you to attend Steve.

stay strong. thinking of you all today.

Alison

User

Posted 24 Sep 2015 at 07:11

Chris

I totally agree with the others who have already posted. Please keep your posts on absent friends going.

When Mick Died it meant so much to me that you posted in his honour and memory. It is not always possible or appropriate for us all to attend the funerals of these Men but it is really important to me and others that we do not just let it pass by.

I hope all goes well today at Rob's service.

User

Posted 24 Sep 2015 at 07:24

count me in on keeping this thread alive

run long and prosper

'pooh how do you spell love'

'piglet you dont spell love -you just feel it'

User

Posted 24 Sep 2015 at 07:38

Thanks for the kind thoughts, it is this site that is the problem, like it took me four tries to post about Rob! (and this wasn't an isolated case). That is why I was going to stop, but you have convinced me to struggle on!!!!!!

So Absent Friends 5 will be starting soon.

See you later Steve, so, so far it will be Steve, Shirley, George and I seeing him off.

RIP Rob.

Edited by member 24 Sep 2015 at 07:40 | Reason: Not specified

User

Posted 24 Sep 2015 at 08:42

Good to hear you will keep it going Chris. Have you raised the issue with Sadie

Bri

User

Posted 04 Oct 2015 at 21:50

I am closing this thread because I need to get the list of names typed out ready for our annual All Souls Service on Sunday 1st November, alright I know that it is All Saints Day, but the service is on the nearest Sunday.

All the Absent Friends will have a candle lit and their name read out, if any Widows would like to attend then it is at 16.00 at Marston Moretaine, Bedfordshire, Parish Church, (not far from Junction 13 of M1)

Therefore Absent Friends 5 will start next, 2015 / 2016.

RIP all of them, and those from previous years too.

Chris.

PS. It is the List of Names that is closed.

Edited by member 04 Oct 2015 at 22:08 | Reason: Not specified

User

Posted 05 Oct 2015 at 04:44

Just to say thank you Chris for all you do to remind us of those that have passed. It is much appreciated by us all.
Sandra

Edited by member 05 Oct 2015 at 04:44 | Reason: Not specified

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